Lessons from divorce

 Even though this divorce has dragged on and been hard I'm grateful for the lessons I have been learning.  First communication is key to any relationship to be healthy. Without communication small problems between two people become impossible to overcome, where as if there had been communication things would have been solved.  Second lesson i have learned is God carries us through things that seem impossible.  Third we are never alone even when we may feel like we are.  Forth miracles happen everyday if we only open our eyes to them.  Many times miracles don't come in the way we expect them to or in the time but come they do. Fiveth in the worst of times is when you learn what you are capable of doing.  Sixth when you feel like you are not ok just realize all it means is the story isn't done with and that better days are coming if you only hold on to God.  Seventh how important the lesson my parents taught us kids growing up which is if you want a friend you need to be a friend.  In this time of great trail I honestly don't think I would be able to make it without the friends I have.  A lifetime of trying to be a friend to those around me has blessed me with friends who have been there for me.  Friends who I have reconnected with since my divorce that remembered me as a kind person who truly tried to be there for them.  They have become the very people who have been there for me at this time.  Which has also taught me what do you want to be remembered as because you never know who will be there in your moments of hardship it just may be the people from your past.  Eighth it's ok to be human and imperfect if we continue to do the best we know how. We need to learn how to love ourselves and be ok with our best. Even though I'm not 100 percent there yet I am working on this because I know it is true.  The more we forgive ourselves and love ourselves the more we will be able to do likewise towards others.  Even though the last year has been the hardest of my life I'm so grateful for the lessons I have been learning.  So grateful for a loving father in heaven who has not left my side and has carried me when I couldn't anymore.